8 months!!!

Adi at 16 hours old so you can compare with now

I do not know where to start now I've stopped blogging for so long, I hope followers

will forgive me and allow it to be treated as a long pause....

We are all well and happy. Adi is now 8months old. He is sitting up alone, eating mashed up solid foods, trying to crawl and teething. He laughs a lot, cries loudly and stares/smiles/laughs at strangers. The latter leads to some wonderful one sided awkward conversations between me and said stranger on buses and trains where I follow Adi's stare, find myself staring at same stranger and say to Adi "oh are you making friends with that nice lady/man/dog/child?!

He enjoys being around people and gets excited easily. He's very sociable. He's making wonderful sounds like nanana dadada gagaga. It won't be long before he's talking. He kicks his strong legs hard when I'm changing him. He waves his arms like a bird when he's excited. He shakes his head in a fun game rather than to say no. He still doesn't know what no means. When I say no to him he laughs at me, hard.

Having a child is even harder than I expected. It's also ten times more wonderful. He is our world and we both dote on him. My hubby is wonderful with him, and they've developed a tight father son bond.

I'm about to start work as a nanny, I'll take Adi to work with me. I couldn't face leaving him especially after all we've been through. We have cut living costs so I can take a reduced wage from my previous career of school teacher.

He met his Great Grandmother for the first time recently. He has two sets of grandparents as well. Not bad eh?

Have a beautiful and wonderful day full of love.

Shakti x

Home!

We are home!

Welcome home banner and balloons my parents had put up!

Events took a turn for the worst and my hubby fell ill. We travelled with Adi on an emergency travel document and arrived home last week.

Adi giving us a wink to let us know everything would turn out just fine

We had quite a chaotic end to our stay in Delhi therefore and a rushed journey home. Poonam was wonderful and calmed us down with sturdy advice. We did have an amazing time in Delhi looking back, it was quite an experience! 


It is freezing cold here in the UK! We have had snow for the past few days. We have only taken Adi out briefly for a quick dash to the car and havn't ventured further yet. He doesn't seem to mind the cold as much as we do!









Adi is growing well, he was 5.77 kg at last weigh in so larger than average for an 8 week old! He is starting to coo and ahh and make more eye contact and smiles and giggles sometimes!!

We are settling back in nicely and preparing ourselves for the final phase gaining a full British passport for Adi and a parental order through the High Court.

Please do write to me for any advice on guidance on any part of the process upto this point whether it be on the search for more affordable accommodation, complex legal processes, or medical questions. I am happy to oblige!

Peace to you all

Adi being burped in his new bib from Millie

Week 2, 3, 4 and the Taj...oh and a brand new subject of her majesty!

So I haven't written in weeks so this is a round-up!

Adi's Week 2 and 3 of life were tough for us all as we didn't realise why he was so tetchy after feeds, turns out he has severe wind problems (or gas for those 'state-side'). So now we put about forty minutes effort in winding him again and again until he's comfortable after a feed.

He is growing very well and last weigh-in on friday he was 4.2kg! He is starting to engage more and he is just wonderful to be around!

We received confirmation from the UKBA in Liverpool that his citizenship application was successful! So that took 3 weeks in total from sending off the application to the certificate being produced - not too bad at all! And this is exactly how long Poonam expected it to take from recent experience of other new British parents. She is a god-send, really helpful and knowledgeable. Next stage is -we hope to apply for his passport next week, which should take 5 weeks maximum according to recent experience.

In other news - my mum is here to visit which is lovely. Adi really took to her immediately and she adores Adi. We have been out to see a few sights and to the Taj yesterday! It was a long journey but WOW what an amazing sight!

My hubby has started learning Hindi and impresses the locals with his new skills. We are also less likely to get over-charged as we come across as more experienced!

Will write again soon! If you have any questions other UK IP's please do email on roadtobaacom@gmail.com

Namaste!

Week 1 of Adi's life

Wow what a week!

The first 24 hours at the apartment were....a nightmare. He was upset and unsettled. We stayed up holding him in shifts all night as he would cry when put down.

Then something switched in Adi's head.

He decided actually he might quite like us.

And he slept.

So he has been sleeping a lot since, admittedly mostly in the day and he's awake sometimes at night, but we can't expect Rome to be built in a day.

He's amazing and we are so happy.

Tips we have learnt on entering parenthood

When making formula - put water in bottle first and then powder, as otherwise the powder displaces the water and you end up without enough water in the bottle....

If you have huge problems with wind, you can burp your baby halfway through feed and after feed, and you can use slightly warmed up water for formula.

Babies cry for anywhere upto 2 hours a day without Colic and upto 6 hours with colic, don't get too wound up when your baby cries or it winds baby up too.

Don't be too quick to give a pacifier, as its hard to stay awake at night putting it back in baby's mouth every ten minutes when they push it out and then start crying. But use it when crying persists.

Don't be alarmed when baby's poo turns colour - we've been through brown, cream, green and its like pesto consistency, apparently this is all normal for formula fed babies.

Music is a god-send, bring over cd's with baby lullabies, soft songs you like to listen to as parents and some more upbeat stuff for when baby is wide awake. It cheers you up, and relaxes both you and your baby.

My advice is stay near a green space as its amazing to be able to go out with baby in the early days to a park and just sit there for ten minutes rather than stay in all day. Also get an apartment with a balcony which isn't onto a main road/out the back and front. We love sitting out for a bit each day with and without Adi.

He's doing so well and we are still over the moon.

Legal stuff

We are starting the application for citizenship with Poonam tomorrow. It will be great to get the application in and then sit back and wait for that to come through.....in some weeks time.

That's all for now.

Love to you all.

Anna x

It's a BOY!

Our baby boy was born yesterday afternoon! Adi George Francis was born at 2.38pm and weighed 7 pounds exactly. He is a happy, healthy boy who is feeding well. We were next door waiting anxiously and we both cried with joy when the doctor told us! We both cuddled him today and I gave him a feed.

From a pair of super happy new parents!!!!

 

We would love to greet you as God has blessed you with a verysmart & beautiful baby boy.

  

We all are very happy for you as you have got the most precious present.

We are so glad as you have been blessed with a healthy baby boy. We wish that he will make all your dreams come true one day and he will add pride and honor to your name.

Please find his details below:

Date:     21st January, 2012

Gender:  Male

T.O.B:   2:38 PM

Weight:  3.18 kg

I've been a naughty blogger

OK- so I've been naughty and not updated lately...at all.

The main reason is that when things haven't gone so well - I haven't wanted to share the news, as I always wanted 'my next post' to be positive, that was what was 'supposed' to happen...so I held off.

Then when things started going well I didn't want to tempt fate and blog 'in celebration' since I thought then the good times wouldn't last!

So here we are, in different topic areas:

Pregnancy 

The baby is growing very well. We are at 34 weeks 4 days and our last specialist scan was two days ago. We had a specialist scan because of the persisting amniotic band - first seen about 10 weeks ago. Well - it is still persisting but not causing any problems at the moment. The baby appears happy and healthy, and in breech position...eeek! I know there is still time for him/her to turn around but I have a feeling he/she will not do that.
But we are happy all is well.

Visa
We got clearance!!!! Yayyyy! We received it around 2 weeks ago , just before Christmas. We did have to chase and chase and chase it through though! But then.....just as we relaxed in jubilation and celebration.....they gave us the WRONG VISA!

Wrong visa
So they gave us both Entry Visas....and that is what we applied for. However in between applying and getting clearance there was a period of 3 months and a whole big thing about how we needed to supply all the extra documentation and get a medical visa, so we presumed that the visa office might have sorted that out and they would have then been processed as medical visa applications, but no... *sigh*


So now we are trying to get them changed. *sigh again*

Flights
We really would like the visas changed over soon as we are booked to fly on the 14th JANUARY!!!! In 12 days time!!!!!!!! I know we are cutting it fine....through absolutely no fault of our own.


When in Delhi
We then must apply for extensions to our visas so they last 6 months instead of the current 3 months :-( And THEN finally we get to relax....for a small amount of time.....and await the arrival of our baby!!

Packing in UK in preparation
So I nearly have every item we want to take, awaiting some trousers in the post for my hubby and some sandals for me. Have got all the baby stuff and pre-washed it all. Have picked out baby clothes I want to take and they take up WAY more space than anticipated! I have bought new suitcases as we didn't have any large enough and we are allowed 46KG (spread across two bags) EACH with Jet Airways! Yippeeee!

So this week and next week I am preparing all the documents we need to take and packing our bags!

Inducing lactation
Ok male readers please stop reading.....NOW,....unless you don't mind reading about boobies and inducing milk production

I have decided to stop trying to induce lactation which was by pumping and taking loads of domperidone. It would have, I imagaine, been managable in the case of a UK Surrogacy/early adoption but I just couldn't carry on with the regime of pumping every 2-2.5 hours through the days and then once at night whilst going through baby pick-up in Delhi with a stay of 3-4 months!

 We will have plenty to do out and about with trips to the FRRO, trips to see sights and then when our baby is born getting used to actually having a baby!!!! I just couldn't manage another unknown new experience on top of all this. Also I couldn't face the prospect of failure - of not producing much (if any) milk and feeling my body has let me down AGAIN. It's frustrating as I spent out on the meds and the pump but I guess at least I tried (part) of the process. I guess I would have always wondered if I hadn't tried part of it at least.

So there it is, our lives, updated to current time!

Happy New Year everyone. 

I hope that 2013 brings you all the luck, love and happiness in the world!!

UPDATE - We got the go ahead to change our visas next week! Yipeeeee...double plus good as then the visa will start from next week rather than from 20th December yayy!

Letter from FCO UK to use with medical visa application

I found this on friday whilst researching the topic on the internet

http://www.fco.gov.uk/en/travel-and-living-abroad/travel-advice-by-country/asia-oceania/india#entryreqs

Go to this 'notice' link under

"We are aware that some British nationals wanting to travel to India for surrogacy purposes have been asked to apply for a medical, and not a tourist visa. We have not yet been able to confirm that this is a new requirement for all British nationals travelling for surrogacy purposes, but this notice, produced by the British High Commission based on Indian Ministry of Home Affairs’ guidelines, provides further information. There are a number of criteria to meet to get a medical visa, so we advise British nationals to seek advice before undertaking the surrogacy process. The British High Commissionwebsite provides information about acquiring British nationality for a child under these circumstances, and the time this process takes."

And you see this list...

Then ctrl + click on 'A letter of support for you to submit'

And you see this....

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We were allowed to add it to our visa application yesterday with an urgent request for updated information as to the progress of our visa application because we are 7 months into a surrogacy pregnancy and have been asked to travel over at week 37 (January 20th)

Please also bare in mind we had a letter from Natalie Gamble stating the laws involved and that our child will be born British and a letter saying similar from an Immigration lawyer. This letter was therefore in addition.

Good luck everyone!

SR xxx