Isn't it wonderful? We received the email on our way back from honeymoon in Cairo airport - and there were lots of tears of happiness and a special toast to our little one :-D Everything was healthy in the report and we are over the moon! It's great to be into the second trimester, it feels very good.
The wedding was fabulous. A small garden wedding with just 40 guests. It passed by in a flash unfortunately - as you know all big exciting occasions have a long rocky build-up and then the event itself is over before it seems it has started. Everyone enjoyed themselves and it was so special after the super rough year we've had to have all our loved one from near by and around the world with us to celebrate. The in-laws had only met each other for the first time a week before but they got on so well, their differences complimenting each other, so we were happy!
Our honeymoon was a very welcome break from reality, a chance to re-gather our strength before the next few months of heavy admin, with my name-change, passport renewal, visa concerns,surrogacy admin and more waiting and probably worrying that something may go wrong. I feel much more prepared for all of it now the stress of the wedding is past. I keep pouring over the wedding photos - I love photos so much and my Hubby's cousins wife took our shots for us, they're so artistic.
The pregnancy is starting to feel more and more 'real' recently. My new sister in law gave us a couple of gifts for the baby from India where she'd been travelling, and so I dared to let myself buy a few whilst on honeymoon.
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| Indian mobile from SIL |
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| One in blue one in pink as we don't know until our baby's born... |
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| Rugs in blue and pink, there's a theme |
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| Indian Pillow case from SIL which we'll use as a wall hanging, blue and pink... |
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| Some blue, some pink.... |
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| Hanging camels ...multicoloured.... |
I explained to my husband that during the past year I've learnt an important lesson (especially for me as a born chronic worrier.)
I have learnt that predicting the worst and worrying about it so much as I have predicted that it will definitely happen does not lighten the fall whatsoever IF that horrible event actually does happen. Whether it's predicted or a nasty surprise - we were still devastated. So I am going to enjoy this pregnancy as much as I can, and I am going to encourage hubby to do the same. This may well be the only pregnancy we ever experience - since we may choose adoption to extend our family further. Therefore I want us to really live and embrace the feelings of excitement and embrace the opportunity of watching our baby grow,and in preparing for his or her arrival.
I am however starting to feel strange about not finding out the sex beforehand. My friends ask whether we are finding out and I have to explain to them why we can't. Deep down I would prefer a little baby girl, I have always wanted a girl since I was a girl myself and there are mostly girls in my family and extended family - if you are not a sister yourself you sure as hell have a sister!
I have decided I need to work on my attitude and do some soul searching and get used to the idea of it being a baby boy. It will take some time but I can do this I'm sure. Working 1:1 with a little boy at school has helped me a great deal, he is charming and it has helped me to have a glimpse of what having a little boy might be like.
It's not that I wouldn't be able to love a little boy, I would love a little boy just as much as a little girl, it's just the concept of having a little boy I'm struggling with. Ultimately of course just like everyone else, the most important thing is that our baby's healthy.
Has anyone else had similar feelings?
Special congrats to Bernadette, Duane, Scarlett and Hayden. We are all so relieved you are home! Hope Hayden builds in strength day by day. We are all rooting for him.
Have a wonderful day everyone.
Love the beautiful baby trinkets and decorations, so very pleased that you are allowing yourself to enjoy this previous and unique time :) xxx
ReplyDeleteThanks my love, yes enjoyment is good, worrying is bad :) xx
DeleteHi there! Thanks for the congrats, we are SO happy to be home. I'll be honest, I have 2 sisters who are my best friends (one with a daughter) and was very nervous about what I would do with a boy, as I have no boy family experience whatsoever. I can tell you that I LOVE my little guy to bits and it just comes naturally. Promise that you will be an A+ mama to either, and that when that baby comes, you will be so grateful that you got the one that you did! x
ReplyDeleteThank-you for your honesty, it's so good to know I'm not strange for feeling this way. I'll try and work on my worries and diffuse them. I am sure you're right :) x
DeleteCongratulations! We're only 3 days behind you, so we may run into each other in India! I know how you feel about the baby's gender. But ultimately we all just want a healthy baby, no matter the sex.
ReplyDeleteThanks Morgan, I left a comment on your blog, it's great that we are so close in timing :)
DeleteCongrat's!!! Great news all around! I agree, enjoy this time (as hard as it is), in a blink of an eye you will be in India picking up your baby! xx
ReplyDeleteThanks Sandy, :) xx
DeleteI think what you are feeling is totally natural. We are comfortable with what we are familiar with in life. You have a lot of girls in your family so it makes sense you are hoping for a little pink bundle of joy. I think that whatever the sex you will be completely happy when you look into your babies eyes for the first time, when your baby calls you mama for the first time, or when you go to pick your child up from their first day of preschool and he/she sees you across the other parents heads and smiles in a way that touches your heart because it is filled with so much love. Either boy or girl that love will fill you up. Although I do have to say that baby girls are fun to dress up - until they get about 8 and they decide that they can pick out their own clothes - or they look at you and roll their eyes and mutter 'mom, you have no clue' under their breath - yikes! Also, congratulations on your wedding - it looks like you had an amazing and perfect day!!
ReplyDeleteThank-you so much for this message J&B, what you say makes a lot of sense and I trust it to be accurate and true. Thanks so much :) xx
DeleteIt looks like you guys had a beautiful wedding. Like you said, it all goes by in such a flash, so it's so great that it was just 40 of the closest and dearest.
ReplyDeleteYour SIL has great tastes - those baby things are perfect! We've been looking for stuff like that...cute, but somewhat traditional. They're hard to find, so she did a great job.
I know what you mean about finding out the gender. I want to know so badly, but at the same time, having such a big "unknown" until the last minute is testing our ability to learn to be flexible parents. Brent really wants a boy and I really want a girl. It's natural to want whatever gender you've hand in your head since the beginning (childhood in some of our cases), but the fact is that once that baby pops out, he or she will be what you've wanted since you were a kid, regardless of his or her gender. Or, if you really really want a girl and it turns out as a boy, you can just dress it in girls clothes. It's what my mom did to me and I'm only a little weird.
Yay for a great scan!!
xo,
B&C
Haha thanks B&C! Maybe I'll just do that-not sure hubby would agree so perhaps just few few hours a day when he's out?! :) I like what you said about regardless of gender, I think sometimes the ideal painted pic we get in our head is risky, life rarely matches up yet what we do get out of life is often far more challenging,interesting and fascinating than we could have ever dreamt of! I was compiling a list of ideas on benefits of boy v.girl yesterday using forums as stimuli and it got me really thinking. I shall chat to friends with first born baby boys too. Cheers! Hope you're both well? Sr x
DeleteI think (hope) it's perfectly natural. Having a girl terrifies me, but I know if we are lucky enough to have a baby, that I will be thrilled with whatever we get.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much :) x
DeleteHey congratulations on becoming mr and mrs, loving your pictures! Your sil has great taste love the stuff for the baby x
ReplyDeleteHaha in fact I picked most of them except the mobile and elephant pillow case - so I guess I have excellent taste :) Thanks so much Gee, hope you are very well, sending lots of love xxx
DeleteHey Anna What the heck I was not invited? :) I cant beleive that me you and Richard will be in Dehli at the same time I cant wait to meet you and see Richard again. I am glad that everything is going well with the little one. I cryed like a baby hen I saw mine just so happy too. Take care.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Michael, it's great that we can closely follow each other's journeys towards parenthood too :D Good times. Have a wonderful day :)
DeleteHi there Shakti Rose! Thanks for leaving your comment on my blog, http://myivfjourneyindia.blogspot.in/. Its been a lonely journey so far, feels good to reach out to others such as yourself on the blogosphere.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on a successful 1st trimester, and congratulations on the beautiful wedding! Am hoping and praying that all turns out well for you.
To answer your kind query, I'm not in the 2WW, that was about 6 weeks ago, but am updating the details now. My hope is to quickly update the journey so far and then be more regular in my posts, reflecting current situation.
So my current situation is that that ET resulted in BFP which I miscarried at 6 weeks. After that, have had grave doubts about my doctor, for reasons I will soon be discussing at length on the blog.
So DH and I are in the process of getting a second opinion as also finding out all we can about surrogacy, as that may be the only viable option for us.
I will read through your blog to understand your journey so far, and will get in touch with you in case I have any queries on your surrogacy experience. In the meantime, I'm living in Mumbai and travel to Delhi often, if there's anything I can help you with, please don't hesitate to ask.
My email id is zoyamaken@gmail.com.
Hugs!
Hey shakiti rose! Got your email thanks...no we are from australia, but we hopefully we still see in in Delhi!
ReplyDeleteShakti Rose I love that you are so honest. I also love your wedding pictures - it all looks really beautiful. X
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