Friday, 6 July 2012

Bad news

Unfortunately we received some very bad news. Ms P miscarried today.

 We are devastated, heart-broken and in shock.

 There is another angel in heaven now :'(

 May I make a special request that nobody say that we are lucky to still have a pregnancy ongoing. None of this is luck, it is down to how big a risk we were willing to take to achieve our dream.

 We are of course praying and hoping that our pregnancy with Ms R continues in the healthy way it has been up to now.

 I said to my fiancé, 'R' earlier, we will now have to give our one baby all of the love saved up for the two of them.

 From two very broken-hearted people :'(

 SR & R xx


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  1. Gee6 July 2012 at 09:43

    no words... big squeezy hug for you both, thinking of you xx

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    1. Shakti Rose6 July 2012 at 12:59

      Thank-you Gee. It will take a while for us to recover. X

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  2. Brent and Charlie6 July 2012 at 11:08

    That's just terrible. :( I'm so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you two...

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    1. Shakti Rose6 July 2012 at 13:00

      Thank-you B&C, It will take a while for us to recover. X

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  3. JFE6 July 2012 at 11:58

    Sorry to hear your sad news, saying a prayer for your little angel. xxx

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    1. Shakti Rose6 July 2012 at 13:02

      Thank-you JFE, just look up to the new bright shining star tonight to see our angel winking back at you. It will take a while for us to recover. X

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  4. Anonymous6 July 2012 at 12:51

    So so sorry ,my heart ache for you may God easy your pain with a gentle touch of his hand ....

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    1. Shakti Rose6 July 2012 at 13:02

      Thank-you Raquel. It will take a while for us to recover. X

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  5. Aleksandra6 July 2012 at 12:57

    So sorry for your loss. Thinking of you.

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    1. Shakti Rose6 July 2012 at 13:07

      Thank-you Aleksandra. It will take a while for us to recover. X

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  6. Aaron and Eddy6 July 2012 at 14:19

    we are truly sorry for your loss. You and your SM are in our thoughts and prayers. Big hugs..

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    1. Shakti Rose7 July 2012 at 00:04

      Thank-you both for your kind words and support. xxx

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  7. I&D6 July 2012 at 14:51

    We Have massive heart felt hugs going out to you both.
    Lots of love.
    Ian & David

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    1. Shakti Rose7 July 2012 at 00:03

      Thank-you Ian and David for you kind words and support. xxx

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  8. Joann and Brian6 July 2012 at 15:30

    So so so sorry to hear this - I wish there were words.... this little angel will always be apart of your life - just a small angel in your heart instead of your arms. Your family is in our prayers.

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    1. Shakti Rose7 July 2012 at 00:03

      Thank-you for you beautiful words and support. xxx

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  9. Anonymous6 July 2012 at 15:33

    I am so very sorry to hear your news and am sending nurturing and warmest thoughts to you both for this difficult time.

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    1. Shakti Rose7 July 2012 at 00:02

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. We appreciate those warm thoughts. xxx

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  10. B and SJ6 July 2012 at 20:31

    Such sad news...sending you thoughts and hugs during this devastating time.
    Take care and look after yourselves gently, SJ &B xx

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    1. Shakti Rose7 July 2012 at 00:02

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. We shall be gentle and take time to grieve properly xxx

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  11. Mumbai Beginnings6 July 2012 at 21:16

    I am so sorry to hear this...I understand completely...we lost our baby at 10 weeks with history of subchorionic bleed as well...my thoughts and prayers are with you.....I can't say that it gets any easier, but it does help to turn to the surro community...we all have to lean on each other in hard times and rejoice in good times....take care...thinking of you....

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    1. Shakti Rose7 July 2012 at 00:01

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. Yes having support from people who have experienced similar trauma is priceless. It reduces feelings of isolation and despair. xxx

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  12. Anonymous6 July 2012 at 23:32

    Sorry for your loss, Shakti.

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    1. Shakti Rose7 July 2012 at 00:00

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. xxx

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  13. EandC7 July 2012 at 03:17

    Oh, my heart dropped when I read this. I know this is difficult and is really tough emotionally, but remain as positive as you can. We're thinking of you guys!

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    1. Shakti Rose8 July 2012 at 01:48

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. xxx

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  14. lisalu7 July 2012 at 05:46

    sorry to hear this thinking of you both xx

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    1. Shakti Rose8 July 2012 at 02:39

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. xxx

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  15. SuzieBen7 July 2012 at 05:50

    I am so very sorry to read this. Thinking of you all at this very sad time xxx

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    1. Shakti Rose8 July 2012 at 03:29

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. xxx

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  16. dancingarcher7 July 2012 at 16:54

    I can't think of a useful thing to say....
    We are so sorry to hear your sad news.
    I know a *virtual* hug isn't quite the same as a real one, but here goes.....
    ((((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))
    Be kind to yourself and to each other.
    xoxoxo

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    1. Shakti Rose8 July 2012 at 03:29

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. A virtual hug is better than none xxx

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  17. Emma8 July 2012 at 01:46

    Sending love and support and prayers to you and to R at this devastating time. I'm so so sorry for your loss. Xxxx

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    1. Shakti Rose8 July 2012 at 03:29

      Thank-you my love for you kind words and support. xxx

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  18. Delhi Dreamers8 July 2012 at 09:05

    I am so sorry to hear this - we lost two of our little beans early in our pregnancy and like you are focusing all our love to this super duper little beanie that is hanging on with us. For that we are so thankful!!! Take care of yourselves K&J xx

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    1. Shakti Rose9 July 2012 at 05:04

      Thank-you K&J for you kind words and support. So sorry to hear you have suffered similar loss xxx

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  19. A Passage to Baby8 July 2012 at 13:02

    So sorry to hear the sad news, it must be devastating. You are in our thoughts.

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    1. Shakti Rose9 July 2012 at 05:04

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. xxx

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  20. Arya and Paul8 July 2012 at 15:03

    Really sorry to hear this news guys,it is so heartbreaking, thinking of you and sending prayers for your little cherub and hugs to you both xx

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    1. Shakti Rose9 July 2012 at 05:05

      Thank-you A&P for you kind words and support. xxx

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  21. Phoenix9 July 2012 at 04:05

    I am so very sorry, it doesn't matter what week a miscarriage occurs or whether a second surrogate is pregnant, it hurts. Please take time out to grieve and be very gentle with yourselves. Life is not fair and downright cruel at times. Thinking of you. xxx

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    1. Shakti Rose9 July 2012 at 05:05

      Thank-you so much Meg for your kind words and support. xxx

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  22. FG9 July 2012 at 05:01

    I too, am sorry for your loss. As much as we try not to it is hard not to create dreams and hopes and this just makes it even harder when there is a loss. Thinking of you. x

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    1. Shakti Rose9 July 2012 at 05:18

      Thank-you for you kind words and support. Yes we had dreamt and planned and hoped. xxx

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  23. purplefriend2 October 2012 at 02:04

    I was so sorry to read this Shakti. I don't know how you've held it together. Reading your blog I can see how much hope and love you have poured out to your precious kidney beans and to Ms R and Ms P. I am so sorry that you have felt so unsupported by people over here, who are not personally involved in surragacy. I am so sorry there has been such lack of understanding and that you felt you had to keep your grief to yourself. Tonight I will look up to the sky and say a prayer for your little angel x

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